The shower was a beautiful tea put on by the ladies of our church. There were the most amazing paper roses I have ever seen, lots of pretty tea cups and tea pots and of course yummy food. Everyone had a great time. I was struck by how different this was to other showers I've been to outside our community. It was about preparing this lovely lady to set up a home with her beloved. No weird games, embarrassing stories or sexy gifts. We prayed for her marriage to be a blessing to God as well as to each other.
We even had a guest appearance via video from Julie Childs. She taught how to make a cake. Well actually, it was the young ladies intended doing a spot on impression of Julia if she had had a beard. Very funny.
In preparation, I put together a list of some ingredients for a good marriage. I enjoyed it and decide to share here.
(Some) Ingredients for a Happy Marriage
Respect- Never embarrass you spouse.
Honor- Your spouse is a gift from God.
Perseverance- It is worth sticking it out and working through it.
Communicate- Define terms because sometimes what you are sayin’ means something totally different to your spouse.
Love- It is both the gooshy feeling when you look at them and the feeling when you pick up their dirty socks for the umpteenth time.
Relinquish- There are some things that really don’t matter or are fixable by just buying two.
Pray- All the time, together, out loud, to God, not so the other will finally get it.
Bless- Try to always be a blessing to the other. Small things can mean a lot.
Work- Work on your marriage all the time. It is unique and will be like no one else’s. Don’t compare, just work on your own all the time.
Learn- Everything you can about each other.
Support- Don’t ever laugh at each other’s dreams, they just might come true.
Respect- Never embarrass you spouse.
Honor- Your spouse is a gift from God.
Perseverance- It is worth sticking it out and working through it.
Communicate- Define terms because sometimes what you are sayin’ means something totally different to your spouse.
Love- It is both the gooshy feeling when you look at them and the feeling when you pick up their dirty socks for the umpteenth time.
Relinquish- There are some things that really don’t matter or are fixable by just buying two.
Pray- All the time, together, out loud, to God, not so the other will finally get it.
Bless- Try to always be a blessing to the other. Small things can mean a lot.
Work- Work on your marriage all the time. It is unique and will be like no one else’s. Don’t compare, just work on your own all the time.
Learn- Everything you can about each other.
Support- Don’t ever laugh at each other’s dreams, they just might come true.
ps. I loved watching this lady tear into her gifts and cards. It showed a lot of gusto for life.
You are so wise, Rebecca, and your own marriage is a testimony to the beauty of this sacrament. I feel sorry for women who expect a Hollywood experience when they enter into a marriage. Hollywood has absolutely no idea what it's all about. XXOO
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